Don’t Be Rude to Others Who Ask For Help Online
I Have Been Wanting to Write about This for a While
I dislike how some people are rude to those who ask for help online. Context does not matter. There is never a reason to be rude to those that ask for help.
In this article, I am going to focus on the main reasons why this annoys me the most.
I suppose to some of you will think this is a controversial opinion. That is perfectly fine. Feel free to state how you feel in the comments.
Don’t Be Rude When You Don’t Have to Say Anything
Sometimes I feel as if people forget that the internet is populated by real people just like them.
I often see people type such rude things on social media websites like Twitter and Reddit. I sometimes have to stop and wonder for myself.
“What they say something like this in a face-to-face conversation?”
I suspect some of them would say the same rude things in person if they had the chance.
People seem to forget the golden rule. This rule is something my mother and grandmother taught me as a kid.
“If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it all.”
I suppose for the internet we can change this rule slightly. Because I am not going to lie and pretend I am always nice online.
“If you can’t contribute to a discussion in a meaningful way that helps people, don’t join the conversation.”
If you think a question is stupid, but it is not breaking a rule, ignore it.
I don’t know why people think they have to treat everything online as a writing prompt. It is OK to ignore things that don’t interest you.
I would go insane if I tried to read and respond to everything I see on my Reddit feed daily.
If you are using a website like Reddit with voting, just downvote and move on. If they are breaking the rules, then report them and move on.
You Don’t Have to Force People to Learn Things
Sometimes “tech bros” forget that some people only want to use computers to get things done. Not everyone wants to learn everything possible about computers.
You can’t force people to learn about something they don’t want to.
Did you learn everything single thing teachers tried to get to you to learn in school?
I had to take algebra three times because I used to nap during math.
Telling People to Just Search It Is Unhelpful and Rude
I remember seeing a little website people share. I have not seen this in a while. Apparently, there are multiple versions of this sort of thing.
Once you clicked a link the website would show this message. “Here. Let me search that for you.” Then it would type in a search keyword and then click search.
Then you would get taken to a Google Search results page.
Here is an example.
OK. Even I have to admit I find it to be somewhat funny.
But the things people will do to avoid answering a question. It reeks of so much passive aggression.
I think people, in most cases, know what Google Search is. Is there anybody who is using a smartphone/tablet/computer who doesn’t know?
I suppose we all have to learn at some point. But I think once you get to the point where you can browse the internet, you know what Google is.
Again like mentioned before, if you refuse to answer the question, then just ignore it.
Does telling somebody to “search it” provide any meaningful discussion?
Also, remember we can have balance. I would find an answer share it, and then state that you found it from Google Search and share it.
That way, that person might consider searching for themselves in the future.
“But I learned everything on my own, and I am self-taught.”
Good for you. So I am.
I certainly did not learn my computer skills from my family. My mother used to get annoyed at my tinkering and testing on computers. Yet now I am the family expert who people ask for help.
Yes, people can learn things on their own, and I don’t deny that. But not everybody is willing to or wants to learn things this way.
Some love to use the phrase “spoon-feeding.” That phrase almost always annoys me every time I see it.
The idea is that you can’t give people answers or they won’t learn seems so silly.
Why not? Sure on the internet, you can search for anything. But there is also a whole world of people you can talk to and ask questions.
Back in the day, the internet was thought of as a way to collaborate around the world. Let’s not forget this goal. Let’s help each other.
Telling People to Search for Previous Answers Is Passive Aggressive and I Don’t Like It
People love to use this argument on Reddit.
People seem to have the mindset if somebody asked something once, no matter how many years ago, then you should never ask this question again.
Instead of rambling on about search the subreddit, I would just link to a previous answer that is helpful. Then afterward recommend searching for the answer next time.